As a preface for the post below… I have been drafting this post for a while, and I know it has nothing to do with my trip to Alaska (I promise, I’m back and ready to write again, so I’ll be providing a FULL update on that adventure!), but it does have something to do with perspective on life. A little over a month ago, a coworker in my office suffered a cerebral aneurysm while at the office. He was just going to get a cup of coffee, walked into the break room but never walked out. After spending the past month fighting a battle to survive, he passed away last Friday night. He was 38.
Life is short. Too short. It’s sad that it takes something like this to make you stop and think sometimes. This is not my first reminder that life is precious and is something to be cherished, and I am sure it won’t be my last reminder. But it is a reminder none the less. In the obituary the family referred to my coworker as having a presence was ‘As big as Texas’. Nothing could be more accurate. He was a friendly and fun loving guy. His passing reminded me of this post that I never posted, that has been sitting in blog purgatory because it didn’t seem complete, it wasn’t ready. It may still not be ready, I really didn’t change anything in the post below, but I wanted to post it because my coworker was an optimistic guy. Sure, he carried stress and worry like everyone else, but he never seemed to let it get him too far down.
And that, is an admirable trait.
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Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty type of person? I know it’s such a cliche question but its something that I think about from time to time. I have met many people on both sides of this equation. I have met those who radiate happiness and enjoy every moment of life, and those who always seem to be negative about situations at hand. It seems that individuals who believe things will go wrong, or not go their way, find that belief to be a self fulfilling prophesy. They become upset more easily, let the little things bother them, explode over minor events and generally are not very fun to hang around with. Sure, I realize that anyone can have a bad day or a string of bad luck, but how you deal with the challenging times reveals the true character of a person. If you let it define you, the game is over.
As I sit here and tell you to be optimistic, I will also admit a few things. It may be easier for me to be more optimistic than others. I have personally been blessed with good health, many friends and a good family. I have been successful in my career, have had the opportunity to travel and to try new things. I am able and willing to swim, bike and run for miles – many more miles than I ever believed was possible. (And certainly my high school or even undergrad college student self would have never fathomed the miles I have completed in the past four years…). I have been lucky to constantly have people rooting for me and providing support when I’m down on my luck or when I start to lose sight of my optimism.
I will also admit that I feel sorry for myself every now and then when I do hit speed bumps – and really, who doesn’t? Pick yourself back up, brush off the dirt and put on a smile. I know, easier said than done at times but if you sit there and sulk, you only make yourself miserable – plus that sort of down on your luck thinking only encourages stress, wrinkles and gray hair and I want to avoid that stuff for as much as possible (although I plan to age as gracefully and as long as I can…).
Over the years, I have had a number of people pick on me for liking optimistic & inspiring quotes, sayings, etc. I’m sorry, I just can’t help it. I find beauty and strength in the art and power of words. I have found that you simply cannot beat someone with the right attitude. Optimism prevails. Every. Time.
Optimism is charismatic, attractive and motivating. Optimistic people are happier and more fun to be around. Optimism = happiness, energy and fun.
Attitude can make or break you. When I’m down, everything seems to go wrong – give up or give it your all. I chose to give it my all, because I’ve ended up in some really good situations after sticking out a bad one.
I have found that change is hard, but it is good. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if the power may go out for a while and you have to walk in the dark. The dark can be scary or you can adapt. Rely on your senses, your attitude.
Just know that everything will turn out alright in the end. If its not alright, it’s not the end. Just keep going & don’t ever lose sight of who you are. After all, the question of whether or not the glass if half full or empty is somewhat meaningless since the glass is always full – it has both water and air in it. Remember that. It may not be 100% what you want, in the glass, but it’s something.
Just like life, you may not get everything you want, or even anything you want, but regardless – we should look on the bright side. Find something to celebrate. Something to be happy about. Something to look forward to.
Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.